Values-driven matchmaking for international singles

For people who are serious about finding the right person

Dating across borders is a different experience


When your life is international and built across cities, cultures, and languages, dating rarely follows a simple path.

The people around you don’t always share your reference points. Apps flatten the complexity of who you are into a profile on a screen. And the fuller your life, the harder it becomes to meet someone who genuinely belongs in it.

Alto is based in Berlin and works with singles across Europe. We understand the particular challenges of dating when “home” is hard to define.

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Intentional matchmaking, not a numbers game

Alto works with a small number of clients at a time. Every introduction is hand-selected, not generated by an algorithm.

We take the time to deeply understand who you are, where you are in your journey, and what genuine compatibility looks like for you specifically.

Founded by Alysia Tofflemire, Germany’s first certified matchmaker, Alto brings together European cultural awareness, ethical practice, and a deeply human approach to finding lasting connection.

There’s a right next step for everyone

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Alto’s signature service

A discreet, unhurried process in which we search, screen, and introduce you to carefully selected matches based on shared values, life stage, and real compatibility.

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Expert guidance tailored to you

A private 1:1 session for internationally-minded singles who want clarity before committing to anything more.

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For those who want to be considered

Join Alto’s network of vetted, internationally-minded singles across Europe. Membership is complimentary, and if a match arises with one of our clients, we’ll be in touch.

“Most of my clients come to me having done everything right: interesting careers, full lives, genuine openness to love. The missing piece usually isn’t effort, but access to the right people, and someone in their corner who takes the search seriously.”

— Alysia Tofflemire, certified matchmaker & founder of Alto

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